Observations


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from ScienceOfRelationships.com

"What do you do after sex? If you don’t already, our new research suggests that you may want to spend a little extra time cuddling up with your partner. Across two studies, spending more time being affectionate with your partner after sex — above and beyond the time spent engaging in sex itself — was linked to feeling more satisfied with your sex life and overall relationship.”

Mon, May 19, 2014
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http://www.delldeaton.com/2010/08/real-time-prayer™/:

You think God isn’t listening? isn’t answering? Or could it be that you don’t know what His answer looks like?

Sat, May 10, 2014
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"'A Critical Examination of the Suitability and Limitations of Psychological Tests in Family Court,' Family Court Review," (blog):

Authors Erickson, et al., lead with the premise that the use of mental health experts in family law matters is a “controversy” that must be addressed, because the “… recommendations that flow from [its] conclusions and subsequent opinion testimony can have persuasive authority before the court and often encroach on the ultimate issue ….”

Divorcing spouses and their attorneys, then, must become informed consumers when it comes to the testing and conclusions upon which their future relationships with their children hang in the balance …. [more]

Mon, Mar 10, 2014
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DivorcedMoms.com | Article:

Translation: When reality and politics come into conflict, hypocrisy is exposed (in this case, the notion that all parenting decisions rendered by family courts are somehow driven exclusively by “best interests of the minor children”).

Sat, Feb 15, 2014
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http://www.delldeaton.com/2010/08/real-time-prayer™/:

Wrote this blog post several years ago as a way of gently suggesting that maybe it isn’t so much that God is not answering your prayers (affirmatively, time), as it is that you could use some help in how to listen.

Fri, Feb 14, 2014
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Building a Lasting Relationship: The Three Pillars of Commitment:

scienceofrelationships:

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from ScienceOfRelationships.com

"When it comes to understanding the fate of any given relationship, I’d argue that knowing something about a couple’s commitment level, or their attachment to each other and long-term perspective on the relationship, is critical (see our previous article…

Thu, Jan 30, 2014
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"The first time I found you was in a dive like this."

Had this conversation myself, more times than I care to remember. That is, in the Admiral Pike role.

Mon, Nov 18, 2013
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"Can You Make Me Happy?" (Divorce Balance, 250):

Researchers separated belief-judgments (“I enjoy my kids”) from emotion-inducing episodes (“But they were a pain last night”).

"We conclude that positive affect and enjoyment are strongly influenced by aspects of temperament and character (e.g., depression, sleep quality) and by features of the current situation. In contrast, general circumstances (e.g., income, education) have little impact on the enjoyment of a regular day."

On a 6-point scale, women are happier socializing (4.59) and in prayer (4.35), than on the Internet (3.81) or at work (3.62). That suggests a great deal of control over just what sort of bounce you can have coming out of divorce.

Wed, Nov 06, 2013
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“Getting over it doesn’t mean forgetting it, it just means reducing the pain to a tolerable level, a level that doesn’t destroy you.”

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Amen.

Kevin Brooks (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

Thu, Oct 17, 2013
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"'Love's Plan B,' Psychology Today" (blog):

Is a “roving eye” proof-positive that there’s something wrong with the relationship? Maybe the individual is incapable of being in an exclusive relationship, period.

Nando Pelusi, Ph.D., argues that it’s neither.

Rather, he believes this represents …. [more]

Mon, Oct 14, 2013
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